“Dear Married Couples, Sexual Intimacy Actually Begins Outside of the Bedroom!!” Kemi Oyedepo – Author, Crisis-proof Your Family
Sexual Intimacy begins outside the bedroom. Married couples who have a healthy sex life and an intimate bond beyond the physical, enjoy this because of how they handle other parts of their relationship. As mentioned before, sexual intimacy in marriage is deeper than just having sex; it should be an external expression of an internal connection. This means that to enjoy such intimacy with your spouse, your relationship should never lack critical pillars such as:
1) Understanding and effective communication
2) Kindness and tenderness
3) Consideration and encouragement
4) Acknowledgement and appreciation
5) Attention and affection
6) Trust, respect, and a lot of patience.
This is where it all begins. You can’t be unpleasant and inconsiderate towards your spouse and expect good loving behind closed doors!
A husband who desires to enjoy sexual intimacy with his wife, for example has to be deliberate about understanding her and loving her rightly. He must learn how to love her and apply it outside the bedroom to get positive results. If your wife loves affection, you have to be willing to be affectionate with her, not just in the bedroom but as often as necessary. It shouldn’t be only when you want to be intimate with her, that you touch her. If you hardly ever check on her or she doesn’t feel appreciated, valued and affirmed by you, she won’t be interested in pleasing you. That could be why she has everlasting headaches or other excuses to prevent intimacy!
It goes both ways; a husband who feels disrespected or disregarded by his wife or perhaps lacks trust in her, will not be interested in meeting her sexual needs. How well you value each other will translate to how well you interact with each other sexually. So please pay attention to these key areas and work on enhancing them for the good of your marriage. Where needed, please talk to each other and prayerfully seek professional/godly counselling. Wishing you God’s best in your marriage and family life!
