You have to be able to manage both lack and prosperity. And prosperity is a journey. There’s no overnight success despite seeming evidence. It’s a progression. You have to pour your life into something. A couple must be able to manage that progression into prosperity. Lack separates spouses as much as prosperity separates spouses. When a man doesn’t have money his self-esteem is affected. His pride comes under attack. He’s overly sensitive. Everything is a slight. Some men take it out on their wife and that’s totally wrong. You can’t take things out on your wife. When things are a little rough you need her cooperation. Work with her, be honest about things. Don’t destroy your home. If you don’t know how to manage lack you will go overboard when prosperity comes. You’ll destroy the things that matter.
Now, here’s what many don’t realise about marriage. That spouse you have is often an anchor for things in your life that seem unrelated to her. When you lose her those things become apparent. Same applies to women. For some men the wife is the stabiliser. But they may not realise it. That fact only becomes obvious when things go wrong, and that’s a tragedy. Some men need stabilisers. You can tell what role your spouse plays in your life when she travels. See how you feel in those moments. It will give you a clue. Absence creates a need. Some men are totally helpless when the wife travels. They can’t do a thing in the house. That should tell such men how important the wife is to them, what role she plays. Same goes for women. Some women lose every access after divorce. It’s like society shuts the door on them. Apparently the husband was key to those doors but they never realised. They soon know their true friends. Country club members can be hypocritical.
You should find out what your spouse means to you, what critical role your spouse plays in your life. What does your spouse anchor in your life? When you know what role your spouse plays in your life acknowledge that role, don’t be prideful. Those roles are often spiritual in nature. Some spouses anchor the soul, especially for the gifted. Some men can’t function with any semblance of disagreeability at home. It totally tears them apart. They just break down. The woman who provides that peace is not just critical, she’s soul vitality. A few men have been known to leave such women and go searching for alternatives with curves. Only to discover there’s no peace quotient in them curves. Some women are blessed with wisdom. They know how to advice. Their spouse relies on their counsel. It’s a gift. You don’t want to lose that kind of woman. And some women are blessed with bravery. They’re like the horse when it comes to battle. They will go to war for their husband. They will not allow him to be treated unfairly. And some women are spiritual. They can pray heaven down. They protect their husband from the unseen.
You need a woman who believes in you not a woman trying to exploit you. You need someone who will stand by you, face the world with you. When you have such a woman cherish her. And some women are so selfless they’ll sacrifice everything for their family. Nothing is too great for sacrifice. These are rare humans. Sacrifice is spiritual.
You ought to know the value of your spouse to you. You ought to appreciate her worth. I’m just saying, cherish your wife. Wise men still do. And do everything you can not to turn her into an angered woman. You can’t be unwise in marriage. Marriage requires wisdom. And I’m not talking selfish smarts, the trying to exploit one another kind of wisdom. That’s base wisdom. Such wisdom destroys trust in marriage. I’m talking wholesome, selfless, caring wisdom, the wisdom that puts the interest of the other person first. The wisdom of “us” not “I, me and myself”.
I wish you success in your marriage.
