IT BAFFLES ME TO SEE WOMEN IN ACTIVE COMPETITION WITH THEIR HUSBAND. YOU ARE AN HELP MEET NOT A COMPETITOR OR AGGRESSOR
THE MAN TO THE WOMAN SHOULD BE A BACKBONE – A SUPPORT SYSTEM
MARRIAGE IS BETWEEN YOU, YOUR SPOUSE AND GOD. GOD IS THE THIRD PART OF THE CORD THAT HELPS MARRIAGE TO STAY
WHEN YOUR MARRIAGE IS INTERTWINED WITH GOD, GOD GIVES YOU VICTORY AND ESTABLISHES YOU
WHEN YOU MARRY, EXPECT REMUNERATION. EXPECT THINGS TO GET BETTER; NOT WORST
YOUR LABOUR GETS REWARDED EXPONENTIALLY IN MARRIAGE
MARRIAGE IS A LEGAL UNION BETWEEN A MAN AND A WOMAN RECOGNIZED IN 3 STRATAS OF LAW – TRADITIONAL, COURT OF LAW AND CHURCH
HOW MY HUSBAND HELPED ME TO CONTROL MY WEIGHT DURING THE TIME I WAS GIVING BIRTH TO CHILDREN.
IF YOU ARE CASUAL ABOUT YOUR MARRIAGE, YOU WILL END UP AS A CASUALTY.
HUSBANDS, AS YOU ARE GROWING UP, PLEASE CARRY YOUR WIVES ALONG.
BE THE PERSON THAT YOUR COMPANION CAN RUN TO.
BE THE SUPPORT SYSTEM FOR YOUR PARTNER IN LIFE AND DESTINY.
YOUR HOME IS MEANT TO BE A REPRESENTATION OF THE MYSTERY BETWEEN CHRIST AND THE CHURCH.
WIVES, STOP CHECKING YOUR HUSBANDS’ PHONES. WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR?
DON’T INVADE HIS PRIVACY, IF HE WANTS TO SHOW YOU SOMETHING, HE CAN SHOW YOU
MISUNDERSTANDING IS WHEN AN UNDERSTANDING OF A SUBJECT MATTER HAS BEEN MISSED
WHAT WILL MAKE FOR SUCCESS IN HOMES IS YOUR ABILITY TO CALM DOWN AND LISTEN FIRST
WOMEN, DON’T TRY TO PROVE A POINT TO YOUR HUSBAND IN A TENSED ATMOSPHERE
MEN, DON’T BE ANGRY WITH YOUR WIFE WHEN SHE TALKS. MOST TIMES, ALL SHE NEEDS YOU TO DO IS TO LISTEN AND EMPATHIZE WITH THEM
DEAL WITH YOUR WIFE WITH UNDERSTANDING, THEY DON’T THINK THE SAME WAY AS YOU
DON’T KEEP SECRETS FROM YOUR SPOUSES
SINGLE LADIES WATCH WHAT YOU ARE DOING WITH MARRIED MEN OH. THE SEED YOU SOW IS THE HARVEST YOU WILL REAP.
ANOTHER PERSON’S HUSBAND CANNOT BE YOUR BEST FRIEND.
SOME OF IT IS ‘LONGER THROAT’. YOU KNOW IN THIS DAY AND AGE, MANY YOUNG GIRLS DON’T WANT TO SUFFER.
THEY WANT READY-MADE MEN, THEY DON’T KNOW HOW THAT MARRIED MAN GOT TO WHERE HE IS.
IF YOU ARE SINGLE: DON’T MARRY OUT OF DESPERATION. ENSURE THAT YOU TAKE TIME IN PRAYER TO FIND OUT IF ANYONE IS GOD’S WILL FOR YOUR LIFE.
REFUSE THE THOUGHT THAT THERE ARE NOT ENOUGH MEN FOR WOMEN. THE BIBLE SAYS “HE MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE”. IF HE MADE YOU, IT MEANS THAT HE MADE YOUR MALE.
– Dr. Mrs Becky Paul Enenche on “DOMINATING THROUGH STABLE MARITAL AND FAMILY LIFE” || 2023 Destiny Recovery Convention || Day 3 Evening Session || Glory Dome, Abuja.
Very quickly tonight we are looking at, “DOMINATING THROUGH STABLE MARITAL AND FAMILY LIFE.”
Objectives:
– What is marriage all about and
– what are the benefits of marriage?
– What do we do in order to succeed in that marriage adventure and journey.
I realized that the issue of relationships and marriage is a major issue especially in this age and time. The devil has decided to do negative over time as far as people’s emotions, relationships, marriages and homes are concerned. Church Gist. But tonight, I believe that God is raising a remnant few that shall overturn and overrule the evil agenda of the enemy in this generation.
What is marriage? Marriage is the legal union between a couple – a pair of people. A couple – a man and a woman, not a boy and a girl, that is recognized by law. It is recognized in 3 stratas of law. It is recognized by the traditional or family laws between parents and the children. It is recognized by the court of law and the Church. Church Gist. This woman testified tonight and said for 13 years she has not been able to complete her marriage process. That is an anomaly. This is something that should happen within a span of a day, 2 days, 3 days at the most. One day probably for the traditional rites, another for the court wedding and another for the Church joining / blessing / marriage as the case may be.
However, some people decide to stop at some stages but it is important that as much as is possible, you get blessed by your pastor even if it is in the office or outside of service time, it is all part of the process.
What are benefits of marriage? Why did God institute marriage? Genesis 2:18.
1. Marriage is for companionship: you get to a point that you don’t remain alone. Ecclesiastes 4:7-8. Church Gist. Solomon came to a point where he realized that God’s agenda for man is to be married to have a companion not to be alone so that his labour is not in vain. All that he is labouring for, there is someone that is a partaker of his efforts and labour.
2. For help, assistance: it is not the help of the woman necessarily as in “help help” because it is the woman that God intended to bring to help the man. The man God gave an assignment to tend the garden, God gave him a work, a position and what he needs is a help meet to help him to fulfil that assignment. Church Gist. That’s why it baffles me when I see women that are in active competition with their husband. You are an help meet; you are not a competitor, an aggressor, or a thorn in his flesh. In the same way, men should also be able to acknowledge and recognise the help of the woman that God has put in their life. She is there for your help, assistance, nurture. She is there to help you become all that God has made you to be.
The man to the woman should be a backbone. Church Gist. That is the version for the man as far as help is concerned. The woman practically helps, runs around. The man is a support system.
3. Why marriage? It is to make life easy. It is for speed, success. Ecclesiastes 4:9. Do you know that word, reward, refers to Sakar in Hebrew. It is payment, remuneration, it is being given your wages for an assignment, it is your compensation, your benefit. Church Gist. The Bible is saying that marriage – when 2 come together, it is better than one. The labour and reward of one person alone can never be compared to the labour of a couple together. That is why if you will work together with your husband or wife, your labour gets rewarded exponentially. It’s not an addition but a multiplication factor.
Bankers here are aware of what we call compound interest in banking. There is an interest that is generated upon a sum of money and the longer that interest is being generated, the higher the interest rate and the higher the cumulative amount of money at the end of the day. Church Gist. If you will run your marriage effectively, it is for the benefit of your effort.
Haven’t you ever noticed that when a young man gets married, things get better. The same young man on the same job, same company, same grade level, he gets married and before you know it, you can’t even explain it, he has a car, rents a bigger house and can pay the rent. Church Gist. Meanwhile, before he was begging father, mother or uncle to assist him to top up his rent. But suddenly things get better but that is the mystery of Sakar – the reward when 2 come together. When you marry, expect remuneration. Expect things to get better; not get worst. If you get married and things get worst you need to find out what is happening and take authority over it by whatever means that the aberration has come about in your marriage.
4. It is for lifting: Ecclesiastes 4:10. Church Gist. When you are married effectively and successfully, it is to help you to stay up in life because there is somebody that will assist you up when you feel weak or when things are down.
5. It is for multiplication: Ecclesiastes 4:11. Warmth talks about marital union. It is not just that you are warm, your bed is not cold, but it leads to multiplication in life. Church Gist. Marriage leads to multiplication of your physical self. Genesis 1:28. God’s intention was multiplication. He gave 5 commandments:
– Be fruitful
– Multiply
– Replenish
– Have dominion
– Subdue
3/5 is for you to multiply.
– I stand on the authority of the Word of God to announce that every barren woman in this house today, every barren man, anything that has been a limitation, it is broken in the name of Jesus!
This also applies to financial multiplication as well as any other kind of multiplication.
6. Perpetual Victory: Ecclesiastes 4:12. Anything that had floored or limited you as an individual, by marriage you have victory over it.
7. Existence in the threefold cord with God. Ecclesiastes 4:12. Understand that marriage is between you, your spouse and God. God is the third part in that cord that helps that marriage to stay. Church Gist. Ladies you know when you do braids, the normal braid that is 3 cord, compare it to when you use 2 hands. With 2 hands when you want to loose it, you just take a comb and brush it through. It is loosened easily. When it is a threefold cord you need to take time to take out each cord and stitch.
When your marriage is intertwined with God, God gives you victory and gets you established in the name of Jesus.
8. For the production of godly seed Malachi 2:15. Church Gist. Again we had already declared that marriage is for multiplication.
-And I announce to you that your multiplication is established in the Name of Jesus!
-And everyone here with your children, your children shall be godly, they shall be godly examples, they shall succeed and they shall never be a victim of the victims of the spirit of this age in the Name of Jesus Christ.
9. For the remnant of the residue of the Spirit
Your union is meant to represent the mystery between Christ and the Church. That was our marriage motto: Ephesians 5:32. On our wedding card we wrote that our marriage shall be like the relationship between Christ and the Church and that is what marriage is supposed to be. Church Gist. Christ is the husband of the Church and your home is meant to be a representation of the mystery between Christ and the Church.
And finally, let me quickly look at the practical things to how to have a successful home. It will never be exhaustive but just a few points. What are the keys?
1. Understanding
Let me tell you something, if you are casual about your marriage, you will end up as a casualty. You need to be very very determined – Your mind made up that this is for life and you must succeed, I must get it right and I must be who I am meant to be and my spouse must be who he or she is meant to be. Church Gist. Let’s look at that passage that we read for instance in Malachi 2:15, the word ‘Treacherously’ refers to deceptively, cunningness, unfaithfulness, hiding things, acting like you are together with your husband or wife but you are with somebody else both in the Spirit and physical interaction Malachi 2:16-17.
Let me give you the scenario, at this point in the Old Testament, the men were dealing treacherously with their wives and then they were struggling, their businesses were not working, including their farm produce. They kept coming to God and asking, ‘Oh! God! What is happening? And God said, ‘Why are you wearying me with your asking? This is happening because of your dealing treacherously with the wives of your youth! Church Gist. Can I give you a practical illustration in our contemporary days, I have mentioned it once or twice in the Bible School – Let’s take a man, let’s say, Baba Chukwudi! The young man finishes Secondary School and while in Secondary School he met this young girl, they were both in Senior Secondary School and they got married.
After Secondary School, he got a job with the Local Government and started working as a Clerk in the Local Government Office. And then Baba Chukwudi said to Mama Chukwudi “You know what? Let me be doing evening classes and let me get an Ordinary National Diploma (OND) so that they can promote me in the office instead of just being a Clerk and then you will start a business”. Church Gist. Maybe she started selling Akara and fried yams and some petty trading at the corner of the road. As she was doing that, the man got his OND and went ahead to get his Higher National Diploma (HND) from a Polytechnics and then they promoted him to a Senior Staff in the Local Government. And then, they say in the State Government, ‘We are looking for a very good staff’!
And they recommended Baba Chukwudi and he ended up in the State Government. Remember, all these seven to ten years, Mama Chukwudi has been frying yams and Akara. The man is still looking good, the woman from the constant helping of herself with the yam, rice and carbohydrates and delivering maybe three, six, seven and nine children have become diametrically expanded letter ‘O’, like a sack of potato. Picture a sack of potatoes, you know there are these bulging parts here and there. So he now gets to the State Capital, yeah they are still okay so he travels with Mama Chukwudi and all the six to ten children and he works so hard – You remember that he is a very hardworking man. Church Gist. And maybe he now gets to become the Secretary of the Commissioner or a Permanent Secretary and suddenly turns around and looks at Mama Chukwudi and said in his heart, ‘The Commissioner just invited me for a dinner today but I cannot carry Mama Chukwudi, she doesn’t fit the picture or the bill, she is not up to standard’! Okay yeah! What about my Secretary? Hello, Secretary, meet me at the Government House, we have dinner’!
From dinner to Government House, Secretarial work or whatever, the story changes, he kicks out Mama Chukwudi saying, ‘She’s not good enough for me again! I want you to think about if you have ever heard such a story -The highest point that Baba Chukwudi was is the highest point he will remain. That Evolution 505, that Mercedes Flat boot that he is driving, from that point on, he never goes up. Have you ever seen such cases? It’s real life oo. Church Gist. And so that was what was happening in Israel and the men were coming and saying, ‘God! Why have you forsaken us? Why have I not changed my car from this Mercedes Flat boot. Everybody has now moved to V-boot, X-class, M-class and G-Wagon, how come I’m still like this? The Bible said, ‘Because you have dealt treacherously’!
-The Lord shall give us victory in the Name of Jesus!
What’s the key here? As you are growing up Sir, please carry your wife along. When you go for your OND, let her get her OND as you are starting your HND. As you are moving up, let her get hers. It’s not a competition, you are just making sure that she is at a level that is commensurate with you. It’s your responsibility Sir, when she has delivered child number one, child number two and number three and she’s beginning to look like a round ball, help her let you and her go out jogging because I hope that you are the cause of why she is looking like that! Church Gist. Of course, if you married your wife round and flourishing, that’s the way you like it, no problem! And you are sure that’s not going to distract you but if you married her as a ‘Lengelengecious’ girl and you are imagining that person, please try and re-enact that person.
-God is going to give somebody that victory today in the mighty Name of Jesus!
Carry her along! Show her the road! Some years ago, during that time of giving birth to children, I was quite round. God’s Servant my husband used to tell me, ‘I’m your ‘Take away Master’! What does that mean? When the food was too heaped on the plate, he would help me to pull the plate away. Church Gist. It wasn’t funny, ‘Oh! My food’! He will say, ‘No! I’m your ‘Take away Master! You shouldn’t have more than what you’ve had already. It helped me, help me thank him because there is nothing that you will do, that he will add weight! And so if I’m not careful, I will start looking like his grandmother and that’s not going to be funny at all.
-Be a helper to your companion in the Name of Jesus Christ.
2. Be a Support System
Be the person that your wife can run to, be a support system to each other, be a person that your wife can run to, be the person that your husband can run to, be the person that can be there when there is a need. Be the person that your spouse can open up to and tell when they have challenges. Church Gist. You remember God’s Servant has told the story several times before, when we first came into town. I worked for about a year and half in a hospital in town, running into Church and then doing what I needed to do until I moved in fully into the Fulltime work. And one of the days, I went to the office, there was this colleague of mine always looking for my trouble -Very rude and very antagonistic!
Now, actually I can’t even remember what he did or said but I started crying, so I got into the car and drove back to where Pastor was and I was crying and he said, ‘Who made my wife cry? Who is it? I don’t make my wife cry, who is that person? So in between the sobs by this time the cry was not too much again, and I explained to him. And he said, ‘Come! Enter the car’! And he drove like Jehu. He just walked up to the guy, looked him in the eyes and just gave him a stern warning, I can’t remember what he told him. And he went straight to the owner of the hospital and told him something. Church Gist. Two weeks later, the guy was sacked. This one was a Spiritual instant action unction! Can I ask you a question? Can your wife run to you if someone looks for her trouble in the office? Think about it! Or you are joining hands with people to harass her? Maybe, you are the major harassment! Be the person that your companion can run to, be the support system for your partner in life and destiny!
3. Effective communication. Communication is divided into two parts – talking and listening. You remember what Scripture tells us? It says, “once have God spoken, twice have I heard” – Psalm 62:11. That is, you hear twice as much as you speak. Church Gist. Unfortunately, many times, especially us women, we want to talk and talk. You’re talking and talking and you’re not giving the opportunity for the man to say a word. You know what they call misunderstanding? When an understanding of a subject matter has been missed. Most of the things that make people quarrel as husbands and wives is not a gigantic matter, it’s just a misplacement of understanding as far as that issue is concerned. Church Gist. What will make for success in homes is your ability to calm down and listen first. I say to women, if there’s an offense going on, there’s a tensed atmosphere, keep quiet first. Whether you’re at fault or not, say, “I’m sorry first”. Tomorrow or next tomorrow or maybe in the night when the man’s head has cooled down, in the midst of his sleep, you just tap him, “oga, that matter yesterday, I just said I’m sorry oh but this is the issue – xyz”. Church Gist. At the time, anger has gone, you can explain the situation. It’s not that the person is still angry and in the midst of that anger, that’s when you want to display that you’re a true woman, 10,000 words per second. Don’t you agree with me? We women, we talk far more than men, right? We do, it’s inborne, there’s nothing you can do about it. Church Gist. When you have little children and they’re babies, just observe your baby girl, before they start articulating words, (she will always try to talk), “what are you saying?” Observe the baby boy, especially if they’re twins, a boy and a girl. Church Gist. The boy would always be mum, nothing to say until he officially starts talking, then he can express himself.
It’s said that women speak, is it 10,000 words per day and an average man speaks 2,000 words per day. Church Gist. Now, this is what happens, the man goes to office; by the time he talks to his boss, his subordinates, his colleagues and everybody, he has exhausted maybe 1,800 of his words for that day. If he has a wife that doesn’t work in an office or doesn’t go anywhere, she’s a full-time house wife, by the time he’s arriving at home, she used only 50 words on the children, “stop it. Drop the cup. Stand up. Sit down. Eat your food”. So, she has a balance of 9,950 words to lay on you. Church Gist. So, as a man, what is your responsibility? Just be listening, let her just be talking and talking. Even when she complains to you that this is what her colleague in the office did, most times, the women just want to talk. But do you know a man’s natural response is he wants to take action, he wants to solve the problem. Most times, the truth is she’s not looking for you to solve the problem, it’s just to complain. Church Gist. So, listen to the complaint, empathize and sympathize and comfort her, tell her, “ehya. Sorry, you hear? Don’t mind them. I will beat them for you”. (Laughs). That is all that the woman needs. It’s easy.
Then, woman, you can decongest some words at the place of prayer. You can even pray for Nigeria or anything you want to pray for.
– somebody say a loud Amen.
Please, husbands and wives, don’t scare your spouse, don’t scare them from talking. Church Gist. Sometimes, when a husband wants to talk to his wife, he would remember the last time he talked to her, what was the outcome? Cry. So, the next time he wants to make an observation or a correction, he’s held back. Men, don’t be angry with your wife when she talks. Try and understand it from her mentality. I hope you know that women mentality is a school, a chapter on its own. Church Gist. I’ve said it many times before, the woman’s brain, anatomically, if you look at the cadaver of a female brain and a male brain, it has been found and discovered that the corpus callosum, that is, this part of the brain that joins the left part to the right part. In men, it’s almost insignificant, so a man’s brain, the left and the right lobes are one, more or less. In women, the corpus callosum is well defined and distinct. The feature is there, you can see it. So, the left brain is actually different from the right brain in women. That is why women overthink. Church Gist. That’s why they do overanalysis. That’s why the husband says “A” and she interpreted it as “ABCDEF” and the man is asking, “when did I say that?” And she says, “this is what you said” and the man says, “oh, is it that one statement that you have interpreted into this chapter?” Please Sir, deal with your wife. That’s why Paul the Apostle said, “deal with them with understanding”. Understand that she’s not thinking the way you’re thinking. Church Gist. She’s thinking beyond you, far beyond you. It helps sometimes but most times, it causes issues.
– may the Lord help us in the name of Jesus.
Every woman in the house, next time your brain does a dance between two opinions, settle it in your own mind first before you communicate it to your husband. Praise the Lord.
4. No secrets. This is quite easy. Don’t have secrets from each other. There are women that don’t know anything about their husbands. Church Gist. There are husbands that don’t know anything about their wives. This is quite a dangerous situation. But, women, let me beg you, if your husband discloses things to you, let him not hear it from your brother’s mouth or from your sister’s mouth or from your colleague in the office. Church Gist. Many women take things their husbands tell them in confidence and they use it as a point for conversation. That is a betrayal of trust and the confidence that your husband should repose on you. Don’t keep secrets from each other. Men, you know something? My husband and I don’t have passwords on our phones. Church Gist. I can pick his phone and he can pick my phone because we don’t have anything to hide. But what are you picking your husband’s phone for anyway? What are you looking for? The text message you sent to him, it’s in your own copy of your phone. If you want to review what you said, check your phone, you will see it. Every other information there is his information, personal information. Mind your business. Just to keep yourself away from anything. Church Gist. Don’t invade a person’s privacy, if he wants to show you something, he can show you. But, bottom line is don’t keep secrets from each other.
5. Express your love. Your husband is not a magician, your wife is not a magician. They cannot know what is inside your heart. If you don’t say it, they won’t know what you have in mind. So, tell your wife you love her. Church Gist. I don’t know, there’s something in the African culture, it’s as if there’s a hidden law, “don’t say I love you too much”. Please, there’s no such law. Tell her you love her. We know you love her but she needs to know by hearing that you said it. If it is difficult, you and her can agree at something. If he says this to you, it means, “I love you”. Say it directly. Church Gist. There are some women here now, if your husband comes home today and says, “baby, I love you”, they will say, “wetin? Wetin happen? What did you do?” (Laughs). Because since they have been married, she has never heard it.
– tell your neighbour, “after this conference, abeg, just dey tell your wife say you love am”.
Early in the morning when you wake up and she says, “good morning honey”, say, “I love you, baby”. You will testify, you will see what will happen to your life. She will just start blossoming, anywhere you see her, she will just be smiling. You don’t need to beg for anything. Church Gist. Praise the Lord. Do you remember the man that testified, I think it was this morning or yesterday evening, it took the Angel of the commission using the face of God’s servant to koboko him for him to apologize to his wife and even on top of that, when he went to wake her up for the apology, he made her apologize. Can you imagine? (Laughs). Church Gist. Please, be open, speak openly. Let your wife know you love her, let your husband know that you value and appreciate him. When he pays school fees, don’t just be staring at him, thank him. If you think it’s his duty, go and ask your friends that the husband didn’t pay their own children’s school fees. It’s a privilege, it’s not a right. Up till today, this last school fees now, I thanked God’s servant when he paid the school fees. Church Gist. “Thank you sir, I really appreciate this investment into the children’s lives. May God bless you and may they bring the reward for your labour”. He will jokingly say “Amen”. It is so important. Express your love, express your appreciation. Ways in which you express love: by quality talks, by quality time – spending time with each other; by words of affirmation – you tell the person of affirmative words; acts of service – You do things that the person values. Church Gist. Observe what your spouse likes to do in expression of love and do it back to him or her. That’s how it works. And the Lord will help in the name of Jesus.
6. Patience
Be patient with one another. Every human being is different from one another. Do you know that your left hand is different from your right hand? Even the lines at the back and on the palms are different on your right hand from your left hand. Our fingernails are different, even as similar as they are, except for those that fixed. If you fixed you cannot see that one. Acrylic will not let you see it. So don’t bother. But normal hand. Soldiers know their right hand is usually thicker and bigger than their left hand. They handle their rifles with it. For most women, their dominant hand is usually bigger than the other. Church Gist. If in your own body, one side is bigger than the other, how much more your husband? How much more you and your wife? How much more you and your spouse? There is a difference in your lives. Patience is what helps you to navigate the differences. Don’t judge your spouse. Stop condemning her. Stop condemning him, stop picking offences at them. Stop comparing them to other people, they are unique individuals. God will grant you success in your homes in the name of Jesus.
7. Don’t be rude.
Be polite to one another. Don’t be more polite to outsiders than your spouse. Don’t take each other for granted. That is why I say it to young people that are not married before you get married please check the guy out. Check that lady out, is that somebody you can respect? Church Gist Is that somebody you can look up to? Is he somebody you can hold in esteem? What about him do you like and value? What about him are his selling points? Make sure they are well-defined to you before you step into the marriage because you don’t step into the marriage hoping to suddenly recreate your spouse.
8. Protect each other.
1 Corinthians 11:12. We belong to each other. We have come from each other more or less. It is our responsibility to protect each other. Do you know I realized in this generation that men actually do a better job at protecting their wives than women do at protecting their husbands? It is not many times you find a strange man coming to steal somebody’s wife. Because as soon as the man is coming too close, too many times when the man opens his eyes for that other man he will run away. But women are just taking things for granted. They marry you finish, you decide to become a potato. I know you did your work, you have delivered the children, well done. We appreciate you but there is what they call the gym, there is what they call takeaway, there is what they call food portions and there is also what they call diet. Church Gist. If you don’t know much about it, please find out about it. Let me introduce you to my latest finding. It is called okpa. It is high in fibre, high in proteins and nutrients and low in carbohydrates. That is why the people in Onitsha and Enugu, when you reach 9th Mile the people will sell okpa for you, after eating it they won’t ask for food again. Let me go on, I am not in a nutrition class.
Women respect your husband. No nagging, no suspecting. Foreign delegates you might not know what okpa is, it is a substance that is made from Bambara nuts. It is made like a cake and wrapped in nylons to cook in hot water until it is cooked, then it is a very nutritious meal. Bambara nuts are like beans. So if you don’t have Bambara nuts in your country, you can make bean cakes. Women learn to maintain territory. God’s servant told us that story many years ago. He was at the Kenyan Wild Life Park and then suddenly, they went on a tour guide and the lion started roaring unprovoked. So he asked why the lion is just roaring unprovoked. He said it is roaring to maintain territory. Maintain territory. Once in a while stroll into your husband’s office looking very ‘jejelious’. Tell your husband you just came to serve him lunch. Church Gist. You drop the lunch box and you go so that every eye there will know that there is somebody in his house. Dress up, follow him out, be around him. Don’t neglect him, be highly irresistible and unavoidable. Be highly cooperative. It is not only the Cooperative in your office. Try as much as possible to be at every point in time the way you were when he married you. I am not there yet, I am still far from it but I am trying my best. All of us can try our best.
Please let me tell you something. Did you hear the man’s testimony from South Africa? There are many Jezebels on rampage and they don’t do it with just empty hands. They do charms, they do occultic practices, they go and cook the man’s name inside their occultic realm and this man a woman appears to him in the dream. He is a pastor oh, we are not talking about laymen. Even in Church, they are Jezebels, none of them shall come near your own. None of them shall succeed against you. That Jezebel went and cooked something and appeared to the man in the dream of the night and said she, the Jezebel is the man’s wife. The man now woke up and immediately his head turned and he began to see the wife as not his wife again. The devil is a bastard. None of them shall come near us. Church Gist. Single ladies watch what you are doing with married men oh. The seed you sow is the harvest you will reap. Another person’s husband has become your best friend. Church Gist. Your best confidante. Go and look for a single lady and let her be your confidante or look for the man’s wife and confide in the man’s wife. Some of it is longer throat. You know in this day and age, many young girls don’t want to suffer. They want ready made. They don’t know how that married man got to where he is. How they suffered together to get there. Just be careful, everything you do know that it is seedtime and harvest, summer and winter, day and night. What you sow is what you reap.
Finally, make sure that if you are single don’t marry out of desperation. Ensure that you take time in prayer to find out if anyone is God’s will for your life. These things that we enumerated as the purposes of marriage, the person coming your way does he fit this picture? Let me tell you something, refuse the thought that there are not enough men for women. The Bible says He made them male and female. If He made you, it means that He made your male. Church Gist. Don’t go and commit suicide because of one ‘yeyecious’ man. He talked to you and he jilted you then you want to kill yourself. It is not worth it. He is not good enough for you that is why he took off. It is better for you that you are still single waiting for who will come your way and God is going to bring your own husband your way.
Marriage is honourable in all, the bed undefiled. It is a key to successful homes and successful marriages. If you lay the foundation of premarital sexual relations, the probability of reaping the harvest of extramarital affairs is almost 99 per cent. Hebrews 13:4. Young lady, young man looking to get married, when you get into that courtship ensure that the bed is not defiled. Church Gist. Be patient, it is just a few months. After that few months, you sef you go dey tire. So what is the rush? You rush and you spoil everything. Then you enter the marriage and it is sorrow upon sorrow. Pain upon pain.
I don’t know what practices you are going to change when you get home but one thing you must do is to start telling your spouse that you love them.
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