Secrets to a happy marriage:
Emotional Intelligence
By Pastor David Ibiyeomie
Control your emotions, issues in a family are to be handled in a matured way. To show maturity in marriage, irrational decisions should not be made. Something happens and you start to shout as if you want to tear down the roof, control your emotions.
Proverbs 25:28
Your husband does something, calm down first. Don’t start saying look at him, he said he is a man of God, stupid, or look at my wife, stupid wife, did they train you in your house? Don’t talk like that! Men who can’t control their emotions are babies and women who can’t control their emotions are ‘tatas’. Emotional immaturity.
The best way to change or move forward is to accept corrections. Husbands and wives should be matured in handling issues. Don’t just blow up at the first yarn, give that issue a second thought.
Something happened in the life of Joseph, the husband of Mary. Mary was given to him and all of a sudden she became pregnant, Joseph could have shouted look at this girl they said was a virgin, how come she is pregnant?
See what Joseph did in Matthew 1:19-20
19 Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not willing to make her a public example, was minded to put her away privily.
20 But while he thought on these things, behold, the angel of the Lord appeared unto him in a dream, saying, Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife: for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Ghost.
He didn’t want to make her a public example. He sat down and thought about it, he was very matured. Matured people don’t shout, they think. A man with self control is very important, learn to control your thoughts, your words and your actions.
Learn to control your emotions as adults in marriage. I tell people who are married, you don’t say everything because you have children. A young man and his wife had issues, the woman said so much that it took almost four years for them to come back but the things she said had embarrassed her so much that she couldn’t come back to church, she had to look for another church. People who are matured don’t talk beyond boundaries, children are involved? Even when there is crisis you draw a line. There are things you say you can never get back. You must control your thoughts, words and actions.
There are things you can say about your spouse, you may be correct but you are wrong and your children will never forgive you.
Some of you everytime the atmosphere of your house is tensed as if you are lion of the tribe of your house. You are coming, everyone is afraid, it is not good. People should respect you not to be afraid of you. Fear is demonic. Your children should be free with you, if they are afraid of you, you have a bad spirit.
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